Wednesday, December 11, 2013

Course Note # 208 - It is NOT Personal

Happy Holidays --- Gift for  December 9 ~  Enjoy!

The most important Lesson one could learn while reading Facebook  is this: 
IT’S NOT PERSONAL!!!!   
Everyday I read posts from people insulted, offended, upset for one reason or another by innocuous things.  The people who make us crazy are those who don't do what we want them to do.  Unconsciously, we assign roles to people.  Perhaps you assigned your significant other the role of being constantly loving and supportive.  You may have assigned your children the role of being ideal representations of you.  Your friends,  Facebook friends, co-workers and of course, your parents, are often assigned the impossible role of perfection; as well as being assigned the equally impossible role of appreciating your perfection. 
Jean-Paul Sartre said that hell, is other people.  But really, hell is our reaction to other people.  No one is going to change until you do, and while disturbing, it’s true.
We react to other people based not on reality, but on our perceptions of reality.  The people with whom we have conflict are not punishments sent from the universe; rather, we have attracted one another so that we might teach and learn the lessons of love and forgiveness.
          A big part of spiritual practice is letting go of our expectations of what others should be for us, and instead asking Spirit Within for a higher interpretation.  As you allow the Inner Presence to return your mind to love, that love will be reflected in your relationships.

            Swim by the hook.
  “Swim by the hook is great spiritual wisdom.”  It's about choosing our battles wisely.  When you are in the midst of a battle with another person your view is from the ego’s vision, one of fear.  When ensconced in the conflict, you must become willing to swim by the hook – to rise above the battleground.  You can do this in prayer:
                      ‘Dear God, the temptation to attack another has darkened my mind.  May you lift me up to a higher place so that, together, we may look upon the battleground and see that it is not real.  Only love is real.  Only you O God are real.  Return me to your loving vision.  Thank you.’
        We react to other people based not on reality, but on our perceptions of reality.  Most of the time, people who upset us are simply marching to the beat of their own drum, yet we perceive their behavior as being specifically designed to piss us off!  The people with whom we have conflict are not punishments sent from the universe; rather, we have attracted one another so that we might teach and learn the lessons of love and forgiveness.
During this Holiday Season and the ensuing New Year, 
let us remember that the only effective change we can make in this world is the change within our own hearts and perceptions. 

Let us remember that beneath our gender, race, religion, and the myriad of things that separate and divide human beings, we are all beings of Love.

Let us open our hearts and extend our gifts. 
Let us strive to make our work, yea, our very life a gift a service to all whom we encounter.
This is how a life, and a world is transformed.
Much Love!


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